I struggled with where to start on this post, which is kind of ironic as one of the side effects of my insomnia, when at its worst, is lack of concentration (bad for me as I have a very short attention span anyway). Continue reading
Do you suffer from ANTS?
At this point we may be talking about different Ants, I am not talking about the small, hard working, itch provoking insect ants, no definitely not. The ANTS I am referring to are Automatic Negative Thoughts.
This is something that affects me massively and in conjunction with my Imposter Syndrome can leave me with crippling self doubt and almost incapable of working. Tasks that I know I am more than capable of completing seem impossible. Continue reading
Just relax ……
A while ago when I was writing my ‘about me’ for this blog I asked my friends to send me words that described me or sprung to mind when they thought of me. These were then worked in with my own thoughts. This is not an experiment I will ever do again (it wasn’t bad it just made me uncomfortable (I don’t take praise and compliments well)). Continue reading
Finding a new normal.
A few months ago I wrote a post on how I stay grounded when things in my life are challenging. In it I shared with you the steps I take when I feel low and want to connect to when times were good.
The things that I spoke of rely mainly on life being relatively normal, and at that point I had no idea that our whole view on what normal is would change so dramatically, and that life would take such a dramatic turn. Continue reading
When plans don’t go as we expect … resilience
There is a familiar diagram that shows plan vs reality. It shows that we plan for a smooth journey, linear, a to b, start to finish, dream to reality. But the reality of life is that it is a mess of a journey, up down, back, forth, retracing some steps, facing obstacles along the way that we never thought of. Continue reading
New beginnings, old demons.
Last week I started a new job. Always a little bit of a worry, the nerves kick in, the questions formulate in our heads. A little nerves are good, they show we care about things. We start to have that nervous/excited feeling where can’t quite work out which is the strongest feeling. Continue reading
Future Directions, difficult choices
What do you want to be when you grow up?
I remember being asked that a lot when I was younger, I remember having to choose subjects to study for my GCSEs, thinking about my future as I approached leaving school and entering the world of work. Continue reading
Reach and Impact
How often do we ever give any thought to our reach and impact?
As a person, friend, family member or colleague?
For me I am usually too busy being me, helping out, guiding, coaching, mentoring and just doing what I can to really spare too much brainpower on wondering how wide is my reach and what is my impact.
Recently two things happened which changed that. Continue reading
Plan versus Reality
I am a great believer in fate, the concept that things happen for a reason. Often I will tell people that there is always a reason, sometimes it just takes us a while to understand it.
Also I am always telling people that strength often means being able to adapt and continue, that those that we think of as strong are in fact just good at adapting and changing their plans to match their changed situation. Continue reading
Social media – How to get it right?
Now you may have stumbled across this post and be thinking, wow, this is what I have been looking for. Someone is going to tell me how I use social media well and get lots of interaction.
Well I am going to start off by disappointing you. I am really asking the question not giving an answer. The reason for this being that social media is a mystery to me really. Continue reading